{"id":1210,"date":"2005-05-26T18:13:40","date_gmt":"2005-05-26T16:13:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mummila.net\/marginaali\/?p=1210"},"modified":"2011-08-09T07:23:53","modified_gmt":"2011-08-09T04:23:53","slug":"1210","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/2005\/05\/26\/1210\/","title":{"rendered":"Oidipuskompleksi"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vaik\u00adka mark\u00adki\u00adna-arvo\u00adteo\u00adria minus\u00adta muu\u00adtoin tur\u00adha onkin, olen tun\u00adnis\u00adta\u00advi\u00adna\u00adni joi\u00adtain sen taus\u00adtal\u00adla osit\u00adtain vai\u00adkut\u00adta\u00advia tun\u00adne-el\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4n ilmi\u00f6i\u00adt\u00e4. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Var\u00adsin\u00adkin ATM:ksi itse\u00ad\u00e4\u00e4n titu\u00adlee\u00adraa\u00advat tun\u00adtu\u00advat vies\u00adtit\u00adt\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4n vah\u00advas\u00adti, ett\u00e4 t\u00e4m\u00e4n hei\u00add\u00e4n tote\u00adna pit\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4n\u00ads\u00e4 ase\u00adtel\u00adma on traa\u00adgi\u00adnen sik\u00adsi, ett\u00e4 he ovat oikeas\u00adtaan ihan kun\u00adnon mie\u00adhi\u00e4, oikeas\u00adtaan tosi kilt\u00adte\u00adj\u00e4, ja sil\u00adti, ellei per\u00e4\u00adti sen takia<\/em> j\u00e4\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4t ilman nais\u00adta sii\u00adn\u00e4, mis\u00ads\u00e4 YTM:in\u00e4 pit\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4n\u00ads\u00e4 tyy\u00adpit ovat kunn\u00adot\u00adto\u00admia renttuja.Ainakin Panun n\u00e4ke\u00admys<\/a> on, ett\u00e4 tol\u00adku\u00adton sur\u00adkea alko\u00adho\u00adlis\u00adti\u00adrent\u00adtunai\u00adnen<\/em> on ATN<\/em>, ei YTN. Ongel\u00adma ei siis ole sii\u00adn\u00e4, ett\u00e4\u00adk\u00f6 heis\u00ads\u00e4 oli\u00adsi jotain vikaa, vaan ATM:yys yhdis\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4 hei\u00add\u00e4t jon\u00adkin tun\u00adte\u00admat\u00adto\u00admak\u00adsi j\u00e4\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4n teki\u00adj\u00e4n kaut\u00adta sel\u00adlai\u00adseen jouk\u00adkoon, jon\u00adka j\u00e4sen\u00adten ATM:yydelle ken\u00adties onkin jokin ilmei\u00adnen syy (kuten vaik\u00adka\u00adpa kar\u00admi\u00adva fyy\u00adsi\u00adnen rujous).T\u00e4m\u00e4 puo\u00adles\u00adtaan joh\u00adtaa surul\u00adli\u00adsim\u00admas\u00adsa tapauk\u00adses\u00adsa sii\u00adhen, ett\u00e4 kun sit\u00e4 teki\u00adj\u00e4\u00e4 ei ole, se kek\u00adsi\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4n, eli ale\u00adtaan vaik\u00adka\u00adpa usko\u00adtel\u00adla itsel\u00adle, ett\u00e4 \u201cmin\u00e4 olen hir\u00advit\u00adt\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4n ruma\u201d, jot\u00adta teo\u00adria pysyi\u00adsi ehj\u00e4\u00adn\u00e4. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Se ATM:yydest\u00e4. T\u00e4m\u00e4 aja\u00adtus sii\u00adt\u00e4, ett\u00e4 \u201colen niin kilt\u00adti ja hyv\u00e4 kuin voin, ja sil\u00adti j\u00e4\u00e4n yksin\u201d on se, min\u00adk\u00e4 min\u00e4 tun\u00adnis\u00adtan omak\u00adse\u00adni nime\u00adno\u00admaan oidi\u00adpaa\u00adli\u00advai\u00adhees\u00adta\u00adni. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Oidi\u00adpus\u00adkomplek\u00adsi\u00adni<\/a> on luul\u00adta\u00advas\u00adti j\u00e4\u00e4\u00adnyt rat\u00adkai\u00adse\u00admat\u00adta, kos\u00adka ase\u00adtel\u00adma koto\u00adna oli sen osal\u00adta juu\u00adri kuva\u00adtul\u00adla taval\u00adla h\u00e4m\u00admen\u00adt\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4: koto\u00adna oli hyvin sel\u00adv\u00e4t s\u00e4ve\u00adlet sen suh\u00adteen, mil\u00adlai\u00adnen tulee olla ja miten tulee k\u00e4yt\u00adt\u00e4y\u00adty\u00e4 ollak\u00adseen kilt\u00adti ja hyv\u00e4 lap\u00adsi, mut\u00adta samal\u00adla se s\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adn\u00f6s\u00adt\u00f6 oli jyr\u00adk\u00e4s\u00adti ris\u00adti\u00adrii\u00addas\u00adsa sen kans\u00adsa, mil\u00adlai\u00adnen is\u00e4 oli. N\u00e4in ollen lap\u00adsen\u00admie\u00adle\u00adni koki tilan\u00adteen siten, ett\u00e4 minul\u00adle anne\u00adtaan v\u00e4\u00e4\u00adr\u00e4\u00e4 tie\u00adtoa tai mik\u00e4 vie\u00adl\u00e4 pahem\u00adpaa, minul\u00adta pan\u00adta\u00adtaan<\/em> tietoa[alaviite]Minulle on j\u00e4\u00e4\u00adnyt j\u00e4r\u00adkyt\u00adt\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4n yli\u00admie\u00adli\u00adse\u00adn\u00e4 tokai\u00adsu\u00adna mie\u00adleen \u201cymm\u00e4r\u00adr\u00e4t sit\u00adten, kun kas\u00advat isok\u00adsi\u201d (klas\u00adsi\u00adnen Ad homi\u00adnem -esi\u00admerk\u00adki<\/a>). Sii\u00adn\u00e4 kitey\u00adty\u00adv\u00e4t syyt, joi\u00adden vuok\u00adsi ryh\u00addyin Pro\u00admet\u00adheuk\u00adsek\u00adsi<\/a>.[\/alaviite] sii\u00adt\u00e4, mil\u00adlai\u00adnen minun pit\u00e4i\u00adsi olla, jot\u00adta voi\u00adsin edes yrit\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4<\/em> kil\u00adpail\u00adla \u00e4idis\u00adt\u00e4 is\u00e4n kans\u00adsa. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Kil\u00adpai\u00adlun mah\u00addot\u00adto\u00admuus ja sii\u00adt\u00e4 joh\u00adtu\u00adva komplek\u00adsin rat\u00adkai\u00adse\u00admat\u00adto\u00admuus tar\u00adkoit\u00adti k\u00e4y\u00adt\u00e4n\u00adn\u00f6s\u00ads\u00e4 my\u00f6s sit\u00e4, etten kos\u00adkaan samais\u00adtu\u00adnut is\u00e4\u00e4\u00adni (niin kuin ilmei\u00adses\u00adti pojan kuu\u00adlui\u00adsi teh\u00add\u00e4 sii\u00adn\u00e4 vai\u00adhees\u00adsa, kun huo\u00admaa h\u00e4vi\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4n\u00ads\u00e4 kil\u00adpai\u00adlun), eik\u00e4 se toi\u00adsaal\u00adta ehk\u00e4 oli\u00adsi ollut mah\u00addol\u00adlis\u00adta sik\u00adsi\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n, ett\u00e4 minul\u00adle ei oltu annet\u00adtu min\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adlais\u00adta h\u00e4nen toi\u00admin\u00adtan\u00adsa hyvyy\u00adden arvioin\u00adtiin mie\u00adlek\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4s\u00adti sovel\u00adtu\u00advaa asteik\u00adkoa. Itse asias\u00adsa esi\u00admer\u00adkik\u00adsi \u00e4idin ja is\u00e4n v\u00e4li\u00adnen rii\u00adte\u00adly tun\u00adtui ole\u00advan suo\u00adras\u00adtaan p\u00e4in\u00advas\u00adtais\u00adta kai\u00adkel\u00adle sil\u00adle, mit\u00e4 minul\u00adle oli ope\u00adtet\u00adtu kilt\u00adtey\u00addes\u00adt\u00e4 ja hyvyy\u00addes\u00adt\u00e4. Eip\u00e4 ihme\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n, ett\u00e4 olin h\u00e4m\u00admen\u00adty\u00adnyt, ja ryh\u00addyin omaan hil\u00adjai\u00adseen kapi\u00adnaa\u00adni, eli etsi\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n \u2018todel\u00adlis\u00adta\u2019 hyv\u00e4\u00e4 ja oike\u00adaa, jota minul\u00adle ei koto\u00adna n\u00e4h\u00add\u00e4k\u00adse\u00adni suos\u00adtut\u00adtu anta\u00admaan. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Kuvi\u00adtel\u00adkaa t\u00e4m\u00e4n tilan\u00adteen pie\u00adnes\u00ads\u00e4 lap\u00adses\u00adsa aiheut\u00adta\u00adma ep\u00e4\u00adrei\u00adluu\u00adden, n\u00f6y\u00adryy\u00adtet\u00adtyy\u00adden ja ulko\u00adpuo\u00adli\u00adsuu\u00adden tun\u00adne: ei mit\u00e4\u00e4n mah\u00addol\u00adli\u00adsuut\u00adta kas\u00advaa isok\u00adsi, kos\u00adka j\u00e4\u00e4n vail\u00adle sii\u00adhen vaa\u00addit\u00adtua apua niil\u00adt\u00e4 ihmi\u00adsil\u00adt\u00e4, joi\u00adden armoil\u00adla olen. Eip\u00e4 ihme\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n, ett\u00e4 jo sii\u00adn\u00e4 tilan\u00adtees\u00adsa olen masen\u00adtu\u00adnut ja p\u00e4\u00e4\u00adty\u00adnyt aja\u00adtuk\u00adsiin kuten \u201ckun\u00adpa mit\u00e4\u00e4n ei oli\u00adsi ole\u00admas\u00adsa\u201d (ainut loo\u00adgi\u00adnen rat\u00adkai\u00adsu, johon p\u00e4\u00e4\u00addyin poh\u00adties\u00adsa\u00adni rat\u00adkai\u00adsua, joka s\u00e4\u00e4s\u00adt\u00e4i\u00adsi muut tus\u00adkal\u00adta, jota minun kuo\u00adle\u00adma\u00adni aiheut\u00adtai\u00adsi). #<\/a><\/p>\n

Se voi joh\u00adtua vain oman komplek\u00adsi\u00adni rat\u00adkai\u00adse\u00admat\u00adto\u00admuu\u00addes\u00adta, mut\u00adta my\u00f6s t\u00e4m\u00e4 on nii\u00adt\u00e4 asioi\u00adta, jot\u00adka saa\u00advat minut ihmet\u00adte\u00adle\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n sit\u00e4, mik\u00e4 ilmei\u00adses\u00adti k\u00e4si\u00adte\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4n nor\u00admaa\u00adlik\u00adsi: kuin\u00adka kum\u00admas\u00adsa lap\u00adsi voi\u00adsi hyv\u00e4k\u00adsy\u00e4 sen, ettei voi<\/em> saa\u00adda halua\u00admaan\u00adsa van\u00adhem\u00adpaa omak\u00adseen? Ent\u00e4, jos sat\u00adtu\u00admal\u00adta k\u00e4y\u00adkin niin, ett\u00e4 lap\u00adsi saa\u00adkin halua\u00adman\u00adsa van\u00adhem\u00adman koko\u00adnaan itsel\u00adleen vaik\u00adka\u00adpa eron tai kuo\u00adle\u00adman\u00adta\u00adpauk\u00adsen kaut\u00adta? J\u00e4l\u00adkim\u00adm\u00e4i\u00adnen aiheut\u00adtaa\u00adnee aina\u00adkin mas\u00adsii\u00advis\u00adta syyl\u00adli\u00adsyyt\u00adt\u00e4 ja edel\u00adli\u00adnen\u00adkin luul\u00adta\u00advas\u00adti kuor\u00admit\u00adtaa lap\u00adsen aivan yli\u00advoi\u00admai\u00adsel\u00adla vas\u00adtuul\u00adla, kun lap\u00adsi huo\u00admaa ole\u00advan\u00adsa van\u00adhem\u00adpi\u00adaan vah\u00advem\u00adpi - siis samal\u00adla taval\u00adla, kuin voi\u00adsin kuvi\u00adtel\u00adla ahdis\u00adtu\u00advan sel\u00adlai\u00adsen lap\u00adsen, joka on<\/strong> van\u00adhem\u00adpi\u00adaan vah\u00advem\u00adpi, eli joka saa kai\u00adken tah\u00adto\u00adman\u00adsa perik\u00adsi joko riit\u00adt\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4 kiti\u00adn\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4, huu\u00adta\u00admi\u00adsel\u00adla tai h\u00e4i\u00adri\u00adk\u00f6in\u00adnil\u00adl\u00e4, tai suoraan.Tosiasiassa sill\u00adloin on tie\u00adtys\u00adti kyse van\u00adhem\u00adpien heik\u00adkou\u00addes\u00adta eik\u00e4 lap\u00adsen yli-inhi\u00admil\u00adli\u00adsis\u00adt\u00e4 voi\u00admis\u00adta, mut\u00adta lap\u00adsen maa\u00adil\u00adma on toi\u00adsen\u00adlai\u00adnen. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Elekt\u00adra\u00adkomplek\u00adsia minun on my\u00f6s aina ollut v\u00e4h\u00e4n vai\u00adkea ymm\u00e4r\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4, sil\u00adl\u00e4 min\u00e4 olet\u00adtai\u00adsin, ett\u00e4 my\u00f6s tyt\u00adt\u00f6\u00adlap\u00adsi haluai\u00adsi yksi\u00adnoi\u00adkeu\u00adden nime\u00adno\u00admaan \u00e4itiin\u00ads\u00e4 eik\u00e4 is\u00e4\u00e4n\u00ads\u00e4. Se sopi\u00adsi my\u00f6s sii\u00adhen kuvioo\u00adni, ett\u00e4 tyt\u00adt\u00f6\u00adlap\u00adsen rat\u00adkai\u00adse\u00admat\u00adto\u00admas\u00adta komplek\u00adsis\u00adta syn\u00adty\u00advil\u00adle huo\u00adnom\u00admuu\u00adden\u00adtun\u00adteil\u00adle on ole\u00admas\u00adsa, val\u00admis, suku\u00adpuo\u00adli\u00adnen kult\u00adtuu\u00adri\u00admal\u00adli, johon monet vajoa\u00advat: \u201c\u00e4iti valit\u00adsi is\u00e4n, kos\u00adka is\u00e4 on mies ja min\u00e4 olen vain<\/em> nai\u00adnen\u201d. #<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Vaik\u00adka mark\u00ad\u00adki\u00ad\u00adna-arvo\u00ad\u00adteo\u00ad\u00adria minus\u00adta muu\u00adtoin tur\u00adha onkin, olen tun\u00adnis\u00adta\u00advi\u00adna\u00adni joi\u00adtain sen taus\u00adtal\u00adla osit\u00adtain vai\u00adkut\u00adta\u00advia tun\u00ad\u00adne-el\u00e4\u00ad\u00adm\u00e4n ilmi\u00f6i\u00adt\u00e4. # Var\u00adsin\u00adkin ATM:ksi itse\u00ad\u00e4\u00e4n titu\u00adlee\u00adraa\u00advat tun\u00adtu\u00advat vies\u00adtit\u00adt\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4n vah\u00advas\u00adti, ett\u00e4 t\u00e4m\u00e4n hei\u00add\u00e4n tote\u00adna pit\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4n\u00ads\u00e4 ase\u00adtel\u00adma on traa\u00adgi\u00adnen sik\u00adsi, ett\u00e4 he ovat oikeas\u00adtaan ihan kun\u00adnon mie\u00adhi\u00e4, oikeas\u00adtaan tosi kilt\u00adte\u00adj\u00e4, ja sil\u00adti, ellei per\u00e4\u00adti sen takia j\u00e4\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4t ilman nais\u00adta sii\u00adn\u00e4, mis\u00ads\u00e4 YTM:in\u00e4 pit\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4n\u00ads\u00e4 tyypit [\u2026]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wp_typography_post_enhancements_disabled":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[11444],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1210","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-merkinnat"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1210","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1210"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1210\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23174,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1210\/revisions\/23174"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1210"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1210"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1210"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}