{"id":23919,"date":"2011-09-23T17:18:36","date_gmt":"2011-09-23T14:18:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/?p=23919"},"modified":"2011-09-23T17:18:36","modified_gmt":"2011-09-23T14:18:36","slug":"i-know-im-selfish-im-unkind","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/2011\/09\/23\/i-know-im-selfish-im-unkind\/","title":{"rendered":"I know I\u2019m selfish I\u2019m unkind"},"content":{"rendered":"

N\u00e4h\u00adt\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4s\u00adti pel\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n ahneut\u00adta, omaa\u00adni, lii\u00adal\u00adlis\u00adta vaa\u00adti\u00advuut\u00adta\u00adni tai siis sit\u00e4, ett\u00e4 tar\u00advit\u00adse\u00advuu\u00adte\u00adni uuvut\u00adtaa. T\u00e4m\u00e4 juo\u00adlah\u00adti t\u00e4n\u00e4\u00e4n mie\u00adleen psy\u00adko\u00adlo\u00adgil\u00adla, kun ker\u00adroin sii\u00adt\u00e4, kuin\u00adka vii\u00admek\u00adsi pahoi\u00adtin mie\u00adle\u00adni sii\u00adt\u00e4, ett\u00e4 seu\u00adraa\u00adva tapaa\u00admi\u00adnen (eli t\u00e4m\u00e4n\u00adp\u00e4i\u00adv\u00e4i\u00adnen) sovit\u00adtiin vas\u00adta t\u00e4k\u00adsi p\u00e4i\u00adv\u00e4k\u00adsi eik\u00e4 jo vii\u00adme vii\u00adkol\u00adle. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Se tilan\u00adne (kak\u00adsi viik\u00adkoa sit\u00adten) meni ihan sil\u00adm\u00e4n\u00adr\u00e4\u00adp\u00e4yk\u00adses\u00ads\u00e4 ohi, ja juu\u00adri sii\u00adn\u00e4 se pal\u00adjas\u00adtuu: min\u00e4 en sano\u00adnut mit\u00e4\u00e4n, vaan vet\u00e4y\u00addyin v\u00e4lit\u00adt\u00f6\u00adm\u00e4s\u00adti \u201cyksi\u00adn\u00e4\u00adni minun on pak\u00adko p\u00e4r\u00adj\u00e4\u00adt\u00e4\u201d -kuo\u00adree\u00adni. Juu\u00adri kun olin p\u00e4\u00e4s\u00adsyt (sanoin) todis\u00adta\u00admas\u00adta luot\u00adta\u00admuk\u00adses\u00adta\u00adni, jota psy\u00adko\u00adlo\u00adgia koh\u00adtaan tun\u00adnen. Eli aloin esit\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4 sit\u00e4 vah\u00advan roo\u00adlia, jota esi\u00adt\u00e4n yleen\u00ads\u00e4 kaik\u00adkial\u00adla muu\u00adal\u00adla kuin siel\u00adl\u00e4. Sel\u00adlais\u00adta joka p\u00e4r\u00adj\u00e4\u00e4 yksin, anta\u00admat\u00adta muil\u00adle pie\u00adnin\u00adt\u00e4\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n mer\u00adki\u00adtyk\u00adsen ripet\u00adt\u00e4. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Toi\u00adsen\u00adlai\u00adsel\u00adla tem\u00adpe\u00adra\u00admen\u00adtil\u00adla varus\u00adtet\u00adtu ihmi\u00adnen oli\u00adsi sii\u00adn\u00e4 pai\u00adkas\u00adsa ruven\u00adnut vaa\u00adti\u00admaan itsel\u00adleen sit\u00e4 min\u00adk\u00e4 vail\u00adle j\u00e4\u00e4\u00admis\u00adt\u00e4 min\u00e4 j\u00e4in nyt vain tyk\u00f6\u00adn\u00e4\u00adni m\u00e4reh\u00adti\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n. Min\u00e4 olen niis\u00ads\u00e4 taa\u00adpe\u00adro\u00adko\u00adkeis\u00adsa se, joka j\u00e4\u00e4 p\u00e4\u00e4 punai\u00adse\u00adna huu\u00adta\u00admaan oven taak\u00adse kun \u00e4iti vie\u00add\u00e4\u00e4n toi\u00adseen huo\u00adnee\u00adseen, ja sit\u00adten kun \u00e4iti tulee takai\u00adsin, yri\u00adt\u00e4n olla niin kuin \u00e4iti\u00e4 ei oli\u00adsi\u00adkaan, jot\u00adten kiin\u00adtyi\u00adsi uudes\u00adtaan, jot\u00adten voi\u00adsi tul\u00adla uudes\u00adtaan j\u00e4te\u00adtyk\u00adsi. T\u00e4m\u00e4n rai\u00adnan voi kuvi\u00adtel\u00adla py\u00f6\u00adri\u00adv\u00e4n p\u00e4\u00e4\u00adni sis\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4 alus\u00adta lop\u00adpuun muu\u00adta\u00adman sekun\u00adnin mur\u00adto-osan sis\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4 tuol\u00adlai\u00adsis\u00adsa tilan\u00adteis\u00adsa. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Sanoin, ett\u00e4 t\u00e4m\u00e4\u00adkin on osal\u00adtaan vai\u00adkut\u00adta\u00adnut t\u00e4h\u00e4n t\u00e4m\u00e4n\u00adhet\u00adki\u00adseen masen\u00adnuk\u00adseen. Se oli aika haus\u00adkaa sik\u00e4\u00adli, ett\u00e4 vas\u00adta\u00adsin niin vahin\u00adgos\u00adsa, k\u00e4si\u00adtet\u00adty\u00e4\u00adni psy\u00adko\u00adlo\u00adgin kysy\u00admyk\u00adsen v\u00e4\u00e4\u00adrin. Jos oli\u00adsin k\u00e4sit\u00adt\u00e4\u00adnyt oikein, en var\u00admaan\u00adkaan oli\u00adsi uskal\u00adta\u00adnut olla niin rehel\u00adli\u00adnen, kos\u00adka pel\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n, ett\u00e4 jos tar\u00advit\u00adse\u00advuu\u00adte\u00adni pal\u00adjas\u00adtuu, se uuvut\u00adtaa hoi\u00advaa\u00adja\u00adni, joka alkaa sit\u00adten hyl\u00adjek\u00adsi\u00e4 minua sen t\u00e4h\u00adden. Se on pel\u00adko, joka ei aina\u00adkaan voi perus\u00adtua t\u00e4m\u00e4n kysei\u00adsen hoi\u00adva\u00adsuh\u00adteen his\u00adto\u00adri\u00adaan. #<\/a><\/p>\n

T\u00e4m\u00e4 on kai\u00adkin puo\u00adlin t\u00e4y\u00addel\u00adli\u00adsen oppi\u00adkir\u00adja\u00admai\u00adnen hoi\u00adto\u00adsuh\u00adde kaik\u00adki\u00adne n\u00e4i\u00adne kom\u00admer\u00advenk\u00adkei\u00adneen ja eten\u00adkin n\u00e4i\u00adden minun reak\u00adtioit\u00adte\u00adni puo\u00adles\u00adta. Juu\u00adri t\u00e4l\u00adlai\u00adsis\u00adta \u201cpoti\u00adlas k\u00e4yt\u00adt\u00e4y\u00adtyy ja ajat\u00adte\u00adlee ihan nau\u00adret\u00adta\u00advas\u00adti, ja se on osa pro\u00adses\u00adsia\u201d -jutuis\u00adta olen luke\u00adnut kir\u00adja\u00adtol\u00adkul\u00adla ihme\u00adtel\u00adlen, ett\u00e4 mik\u00adsen min\u00e4 ole kos\u00adkaan koke\u00adnut hoi\u00adto\u00adsuh\u00adtei\u00adta\u00adni siten. #<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

N\u00e4h\u00adt\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4sti pel\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n, ett\u00e4 tar\u00advit\u00adse\u00advuu\u00adteni uuvut\u00adtaa. T\u00e4m\u00e4 juo\u00adlahti mie\u00adleen, kun ker\u00adroin psy\u00adko\u00adlo\u00adgille sii\u00adt\u00e4 miten pahoi\u00adtin mie\u00adleni, kun t\u00e4m\u00e4 tapaa\u00admi\u00adnen sovit\u00adtiin vas\u00adta t\u00e4k\u00adsi p\u00e4iv\u00e4ksi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wp_typography_post_enhancements_disabled":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[11444],"tags":[1986],"class_list":["post-23919","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-merkinnat","tag-psykologia"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23919","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23919"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23919\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23927,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23919\/revisions\/23927"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23919"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23919"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23919"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}