{"id":2712,"date":"2007-04-11T15:22:54","date_gmt":"2007-04-11T12:22:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mummila.net\/marginaali\/2007\/04\/11\/ja-minahan-kylla-sanon-asioita-joita-en-sanoisi-kasvotusten\/"},"modified":"2011-08-09T18:35:24","modified_gmt":"2011-08-09T15:35:24","slug":"ja-minahan-kylla-sanon-asioita-joita-en-sanoisi-kasvotusten","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/2007\/04\/11\/ja-minahan-kylla-sanon-asioita-joita-en-sanoisi-kasvotusten\/","title":{"rendered":"Ja min\u00e4h\u00e4n kyll\u00e4 sanon asioita joita en sanoisi kasvotusten!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Yksi useim\u00admin mai\u00adni\u00adtuis\u00adta net\u00adti\u00adkes\u00adkus\u00adte\u00adlui\u00adta kos\u00adke\u00advis\u00adta s\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adn\u00f6is\u00adt\u00e4 on, ettei kos\u00adkaan pit\u00e4i\u00adsi sanoa mit\u00e4\u00e4n sel\u00adlais\u00adta mit\u00e4 ei voi\u00adsi sanoa kasvokkainkin[alaviite]Viimeksi t\u00e4m\u00e4 s\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adt\u00f6 nousi tape\u00adtil\u00adle O\u2019Reil\u00adly<\/span>n<\/strong> k\u00e4y\u00adt\u00f6s\u00ads\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adt\u00f6\u00adjen<\/a> (via Kari<\/strong><\/a>) yhtey\u00addes\u00ads\u00e4. O\u2019Reil\u00adlyn s\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adn\u00f6s\u00adt\u00f6 on purek\u00adsit\u00adtu pala\u00adsik\u00adsi esi\u00admer\u00adkik\u00adsi ars tech\u00adnica<\/span>ssa<\/a> ja TNL.net:iss\u00e4<\/a> (via Boing Boing<\/a>).[\/alaviite]. Vaik\u00adka olen\u00adkin ylei\u00adses\u00adti kai\u00adken\u00adlai\u00adsia kes\u00adkus\u00adte\u00adlun\u00adkah\u00adlit\u00adse\u00admi\u00adsia vas\u00adtaan, t\u00e4m\u00e4 s\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adt\u00f6 on minus\u00adta se kaik\u00adkein ep\u00e4\u00adon\u00adnis\u00adtu\u00adnein. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Kuten tun\u00adnet\u00adtua, sosi\u00adaa\u00adli\u00adsen kans\u00adsa\u00adk\u00e4y\u00admi\u00adsen tilan\u00adteet ovat minul\u00adle hyvin vai\u00adkei\u00adta. Nimit\u00adti\u00adp\u00e4 sit\u00e4 sit\u00adten ujou\u00addek\u00adsi tai sosi\u00adaa\u00adlis\u00adten tilan\u00adtei\u00adden pelo\u00adko\u00adsi, en joka tapauk\u00adses\u00adsa\u00adkaan ole niin\u00adsa\u00adno\u00adtus\u00adti nor\u00admaa\u00adli, mit\u00e4 vuo\u00adro\u00advai\u00adku\u00adtus\u00adti\u00adlan\u00adtei\u00adsiin tulee, en edes suo\u00adma\u00adlai\u00adsek\u00adsi. Olen niin hil\u00adjai\u00adnen ett\u00e4 ihmi\u00adset yleen\u00ads\u00e4 huo\u00admaa\u00advat sen ja tun\u00adte\u00advat tar\u00advet\u00adta kom\u00admen\u00adtoi\u00adda sit\u00e4 joten\u00adkin. He olet\u00adta\u00advat, ett\u00e4 minua vai\u00advaa jokin, vaik\u00adka todel\u00adli\u00adsuu\u00addes\u00adsa minua vai\u00advaa vain hei\u00add\u00e4n l\u00e4s\u00adn\u00e4\u00adolon\u00adsa. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Jos t\u00e4m\u00e4 oli\u00adkin sinul\u00adle tut\u00adtua, niin ehk\u00e4 se on uut\u00adta, ett\u00e4 mit\u00e4 min\u00e4 tun\u00adnen<\/em> sel\u00adlai\u00adsis\u00adsa tilan\u00adteis\u00adsa. #<\/a><\/p>\n

P\u00e4\u00e4l\u00adlim\u00adm\u00e4i\u00adsin tun\u00adne, joka minul\u00adla ihmis\u00adten seu\u00adras\u00adsa on, on pel\u00adko. Mones\u00adti jou\u00addun pite\u00adle\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n itse\u00e4\u00adni k\u00e4sil\u00adl\u00e4\u00adni, jot\u00adtei vapi\u00adse\u00admis\u00adta huo\u00admat\u00adtai\u00adsi. Se on v\u00e4h\u00e4n niin kuin pel\u00adk\u00e4i\u00adsin jon\u00adkun k\u00e4y\u00adv\u00e4n kimp\u00adpuu\u00adni min\u00e4 het\u00adke\u00adn\u00e4 hyv\u00e4n\u00ads\u00e4. (Sel\u00adlais\u00adta en muis\u00adta kos\u00adkaan tapah\u00adtu\u00adneen, ja kyse onkin pikem\u00admin\u00adkin ver\u00adtaus\u00adku\u00advas\u00adta kuin kon\u00adkreet\u00adti\u00adses\u00adta seli\u00adtyk\u00adses\u00adt\u00e4 pelol\u00adle\u00adni. Todel\u00adli\u00adsia syi\u00adt\u00e4 pel\u00adkoo\u00adni en tie\u00add\u00e4 itse\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n.) #<\/a><\/p>\n

Nor\u00admaa\u00adli ihmi\u00adnen voi kokea saman\u00adlais\u00adta pel\u00adkoa sil\u00adloin, kun h\u00e4n jou\u00adtuu pit\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n esi\u00adtel\u00adm\u00e4n isol\u00adle jou\u00adkol\u00adle vie\u00adrai\u00adta ihmi\u00adsi\u00e4. Jos tie\u00add\u00e4t, mis\u00adt\u00e4 puhun, ymm\u00e4r\u00adr\u00e4t ehk\u00e4, ett\u00e4 asioi\u00adden sano\u00admi\u00adnen kas\u00advo\u00adtus\u00adten on minul\u00adle useim\u00admi\u00adten t\u00e4y\u00adsin pois\u00adsul\u00adjet\u00adtua. Kyse ei siis ole sii\u00adt\u00e4 ettei\u00adk\u00f6 minul\u00adla oli\u00adsi sanot\u00adta\u00advaa (vaik\u00adka p\u00e4\u00e4\u00adni onkin yleen\u00ads\u00e4 ihan tyh\u00adj\u00e4 niin kuin pai\u00adna\u00adjais\u00admai\u00adses\u00adti mene\u00adv\u00e4s\u00ads\u00e4 esi\u00adtel\u00adm\u00e4s\u00ads\u00e4 saat\u00adti\u00adsi tapah\u00adtua), vaan olen vain lii\u00adan pelois\u00adsa\u00adni sanoak\u00adse\u00adni yhti\u00adk\u00e4s mit\u00e4\u00e4n. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Lopul\u00adli\u00adnen este suu\u00adni avaa\u00admi\u00adsel\u00adle on, ett\u00e4 olen koko ajan tie\u00adtoi\u00adnen sii\u00adt\u00e4 miten ep\u00e4\u00adnor\u00admaa\u00adlia pel\u00adko\u00adni on. Tie\u00add\u00e4n\u00adh\u00e4n min\u00e4 hyvin, ettei minun ole\u00adte\u00adta pit\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4n esi\u00adtel\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4 ven\u00adto\u00advie\u00adrail\u00adle, mut\u00adta sil\u00adt\u00e4 minus\u00adta tun\u00adtuu, enk\u00e4 pys\u00adty hyv\u00e4k\u00adsy\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n omaa riit\u00adt\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4t\u00adt\u00f6\u00admyyt\u00adt\u00e4\u00adni enk\u00e4 sik\u00adsi sano yht\u00e4\u00e4n mit\u00e4\u00e4n. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Mut\u00adta ver\u00adkos\u00adsa kaik\u00adki on toi\u00adsin. #<\/a><\/p>\n

T\u00e4\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4 kukaan ei n\u00e4e her\u00admos\u00adtu\u00admi\u00adse\u00adni merk\u00adke\u00adj\u00e4. Syd\u00e4\u00adme\u00adni saat\u00adtaa takoa kuin urhei\u00adlusuo\u00adri\u00adtus\u00adta teh\u00adt\u00e4es\u00ads\u00e4 ja t\u00e4ri\u00adsen kuin Mic\u00adhael J. Fox<\/span><\/strong><\/a> - eik\u00e4 kukaan tie\u00add\u00e4 sii\u00adt\u00e4 mit\u00e4\u00e4n!<\/em> Toi\u00adsin sanoen, lopul\u00adli\u00adnen estee\u00adni onkin yht\u00e4k\u00adki\u00e4 kadon\u00adnut koko\u00adnaan. #<\/a><\/p>\n

T\u00e4s\u00ads\u00e4 vai\u00adhees\u00adsa lie\u00adnee jo ilmeis\u00adt\u00e4 mihin min\u00e4 t\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4 t\u00e4h\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4n: jos minua k\u00e4s\u00adke\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4n rajoit\u00adta\u00admaan sano\u00admi\u00adsia\u00adni sii\u00adhen mit\u00e4 min\u00e4 sanoi\u00adsin kas\u00advo\u00adtus\u00adten, se on sama kuin jos minua k\u00e4s\u00adket\u00adt\u00e4i\u00adsiin tuk\u00adki\u00admaan tur\u00adpa\u00adni koko\u00adnaan. Enh\u00e4n min\u00e4 tie\u00adten\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n voi sel\u00adlais\u00adta hyv\u00e4k\u00adsy\u00e4, ja koen sen jopa louk\u00adkaa\u00adva\u00adna. Minul\u00adle ja kal\u00adtai\u00adsil\u00adle\u00adni t\u00e4m\u00e4 verk\u00adko\u00admaa\u00adil\u00adma on paik\u00adka jos\u00adsa voim\u00adme vapau\u00adtua pahim\u00admis\u00adta pelois\u00adtam\u00adme, ja olla niin kuin ihmi\u00adset, joil\u00adle kas\u00advok\u00adkain tapah\u00adtu\u00adva vuo\u00adro\u00advai\u00adku\u00adtus on luon\u00adte\u00advaa. Ja sit\u00adten mei\u00add\u00e4n pit\u00e4i\u00adsi\u00adkin yht\u00e4k\u00adki\u00e4 t\u00e4\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4\u00adkin taan\u00adtua saman\u00adlai\u00adseen tilaan kuin ulko\u00admaa\u00adil\u00admas\u00adsa? Ei tule kaup\u00adpo\u00adja. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Joku voi ehk\u00e4 aja\u00adtel\u00adla, ett\u00e4 min\u00e4\u00adh\u00e4n olen poik\u00adkeus\u00adta\u00adpaus, jota s\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adn\u00f6s\u00ads\u00e4 ei vain ole otet\u00adtu huo\u00admioon. Mut\u00adta vaik\u00adka min\u00e4 edus\u00adtan\u00adkin ehk\u00e4 \u00e4\u00e4rim\u00adm\u00e4i\u00adsyyt\u00adt\u00e4, olen kaik\u00adkea muu\u00adta kuin ainoa laa\u00adtua\u00adni. Ja sit\u00e4\u00adkin t\u00e4r\u00adke\u00e4m\u00adp\u00e4\u00e4 on, ett\u00e4 poik\u00adkea\u00advuu\u00adte\u00adni ei ole laa\u00addul\u00adlis\u00adta vaan m\u00e4\u00e4\u00adr\u00e4l\u00adlis\u00adt\u00e4: me kaik\u00adki olem\u00adme samal\u00adla akse\u00adlil\u00adla, j\u00e4t\u00e4m\u00adme enem\u00adm\u00e4n tai v\u00e4hem\u00adm\u00e4n asioi\u00adta sano\u00admat\u00adta kas\u00advo\u00adtus\u00adten. Ja jos nyt ereh\u00addyit ajat\u00adte\u00adle\u00admaan, ett\u00e4 seh\u00e4n joh\u00adtuu sii\u00adt\u00e4, ett\u00e4 ilman sel\u00adlai\u00adsia varauk\u00adsia kaik\u00adki vajoai\u00adsi anar\u00adki\u00adaan, minul\u00adla on ik\u00e4\u00advi\u00e4 uuti\u00adsia: kyse on vain itse\u00adtun\u00adto\u00adsi yri\u00adtyk\u00adses\u00adt\u00e4 s\u00e4i\u00adlyt\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4 posi\u00adtii\u00advi\u00adnen min\u00e4\u00adku\u00adva. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Jot\u00adkin sano\u00admat\u00adta ja teke\u00adm\u00e4t\u00adt\u00e4 j\u00e4\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4t asiat oli\u00adsi\u00advat ep\u00e4i\u00adle\u00adm\u00e4t\u00adt\u00e4 omi\u00adaan luhis\u00adta\u00admaan val\u00adlit\u00adse\u00advat sosi\u00adaa\u00adli\u00adset kuviot, jos ne sanot\u00adtai\u00adsiin ja teh\u00adt\u00e4i\u00adsiin. V\u00e4i\u00adt\u00e4n kui\u00adten\u00adkin, ett\u00e4 joka het\u00adki maa\u00adil\u00admas\u00adsa j\u00e4te\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4n sano\u00admat\u00adta val\u00adtai\u00adsa m\u00e4\u00e4\u00adr\u00e4 asioi\u00adta t\u00e4y\u00adsin perus\u00adteet\u00adto\u00admien, j\u00e4r\u00adjet\u00adt\u00f6\u00admien pel\u00adko\u00adjen takia (ja ne sel\u00adlai\u00adset\u00adhan min\u00e4 tun\u00adnen kuin omat tas\u00adku\u00adni), ja sano\u00admat\u00adta j\u00e4t\u00adt\u00e4\u00adj\u00e4t ovat juu\u00adri n\u00e4i\u00adt\u00e4 niin\u00adsa\u00adnot\u00adtu\u00adja nor\u00admaa\u00adlei\u00adta ihmi\u00adsi\u00e4. Ehk\u00e4 jokin, mit\u00e4 toi\u00adnen ihmi\u00adnen sanoi, tekee olo\u00adsi hie\u00adman ep\u00e4\u00advar\u00admak\u00adsi, tai ehk\u00e4 tuh\u00adti ate\u00adria saa sinut het\u00adkel\u00adli\u00adses\u00adti tukeu\u00adtu\u00admaan muka\u00advan lokoi\u00adsaan ja tur\u00adval\u00adli\u00adseen oloon ja v\u00e4lt\u00adt\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n konflik\u00adtia; t\u00e4l\u00adlai\u00adset mit\u00e4t\u00adt\u00f6\u00adm\u00e4t syyt vai\u00adkut\u00adta\u00advat p\u00e4\u00e4\u00adt\u00f6k\u00adsiim\u00adme ja useim\u00admat meis\u00adt\u00e4 on ohjel\u00admoi\u00adtu suo\u00adsi\u00admaan sosi\u00adaa\u00adlis\u00adten suh\u00adteit\u00adtem\u00adme vaa\u00adli\u00admis\u00adta omien n\u00e4ke\u00admys\u00adten aja\u00admi\u00adsen kus\u00adtan\u00adnuk\u00adsel\u00adla vaih\u00adte\u00adle\u00advis\u00adsa m\u00e4\u00e4\u00adrin, ja juu\u00adri t\u00e4m\u00e4n kus\u00adtan\u00adnuk\u00adsen verk\u00adko\u00admaa\u00adil\u00adma eli\u00admi\u00adnoi koko\u00adnaan. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Tot\u00adta kai se mah\u00addol\u00adlis\u00adtaa my\u00f6s \u00e4\u00e4li\u00f6\u00adm\u00e4i\u00adsen k\u00e4yt\u00adt\u00e4y\u00adty\u00admi\u00adsen, mut\u00adta sel\u00adlai\u00adnen on minun mie\u00adles\u00adt\u00e4\u00adni kui\u00adten\u00adkin aina \u00e4\u00e4ri\u00adta\u00adpaus eik\u00e4 s\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adt\u00f6. Kas\u00advo\u00adkon\u00adtak\u00adtin puut\u00adtu\u00admi\u00adsen anta\u00adma vapaus tekee verk\u00adko\u00adkiusaa\u00adjia lop\u00adpu\u00adjen lopuk\u00adsi kui\u00adten\u00adkin v\u00e4hem\u00admis\u00adt\u00f6s\u00adt\u00e4. Muu\u00adtoin\u00adhan t\u00e4\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4 verk\u00adko\u00admaa\u00adil\u00admas\u00adsa val\u00adlit\u00adsi\u00adsi se t\u00e4y\u00addel\u00adli\u00adnen anar\u00adkia. Se, ettei niin ole k\u00e4y\u00adnyt, todis\u00adtaa minus\u00adta sii\u00adt\u00e4, ett\u00e4 riit\u00adt\u00e4\u00adv\u00e4n monet ihmi\u00adset osaa\u00advat k\u00e4yt\u00adt\u00e4y\u00adty\u00e4 asial\u00adli\u00adses\u00adti, jot\u00adta my\u00f6s ver\u00adkos\u00adsa on mie\u00adle\u00adk\u00e4s\u00adt\u00e4 muo\u00addos\u00adtaa sosi\u00adaa\u00adli\u00adsia suh\u00adtei\u00adta. Kos\u00adka kas\u00advo\u00adtus\u00adten tapah\u00adtu\u00advien vuo\u00adro\u00advai\u00adku\u00adtus\u00adti\u00adlan\u00adtei\u00adden aiheut\u00adta\u00admis\u00adta pelois\u00adta ei t\u00e4\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4 tar\u00advit\u00adse k\u00e4r\u00adsi\u00e4, n\u00e4m\u00e4 suh\u00adteet ovat v\u00e4\u00e4\u00adj\u00e4\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4t\u00adt\u00e4 eri\u00adlai\u00adsia kuin mit\u00e4 ne oli\u00adsi\u00advat ulko\u00admaa\u00adil\u00admas\u00adsa. T\u00e4m\u00e4n takia min\u00e4 pid\u00e4n kovin huo\u00adles\u00adtut\u00adta\u00advi\u00adna yri\u00adtyk\u00adsi\u00e4 tuo\u00adda ulko\u00admaa\u00adil\u00adman s\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adt\u00f6\u00adj\u00e4 t\u00e4n\u00adne. Se rik\u00adkoo t\u00e4\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4 val\u00adlit\u00adse\u00advan asioi\u00adden luon\u00adnol\u00adli\u00adsen tolan ja uhkaa omaa, peloil\u00adta l\u00f6y\u00adt\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4\u00adni tur\u00adva\u00adpaik\u00adkaa. #<\/a><\/p>\n

(Teen t\u00e4s\u00adt\u00e4 mer\u00adkin\u00adn\u00e4s\u00adt\u00e4 poik\u00adkeuk\u00adsel\u00adli\u00adses\u00adti englan\u00adnin\u00adkie\u00adli\u00adsen rin\u00adnak\u00adkais\u00adver\u00adsion, kos\u00adka l\u00e4h\u00adt\u00f6\u00adkoh\u00adta\u00adna ollut kir\u00adjoi\u00adtus oli englan\u00adnin\u00adkie\u00adli\u00adnen, ja aihees\u00adta on kes\u00adkus\u00adtel\u00adtu laa\u00adjas\u00adti nime\u00adno\u00admaan englan\u00adnin\u00adkie\u00adli\u00adsis\u00ads\u00e4 blo\u00adgeis\u00adsa.) #<\/a><\/p>\n

(This ent\u00adry is also avai\u00adlable in English<\/a>.)<\/span> #<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Yksi net\u00adti\u00adkes\u00adkus\u00adte\u00adlus\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adn\u00f6is\u00adt\u00e4 on, ettei pit\u00e4i\u00adsi sanoa sel\u00adlais\u00adta mit\u00e4 ei voi\u00adsi sanoa kas\u00advok\u00adkain. Olen ylei\u00adses\u00adti kai\u00adken\u00adlai\u00adsia kes\u00adkus\u00adte\u00adlun\u00adkah\u00adlit\u00adse\u00admi\u00adsia vas\u00adtaan, ja t\u00e4m\u00e4 s\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adt\u00f6 on kaik\u00adkein ep\u00e4onnistunein.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wp_typography_post_enhancements_disabled":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[11444],"tags":[2306],"class_list":["post-2712","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-merkinnat","tag-sosiaalisten-tilanteiden-pelko"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2712","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2712"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2712\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23226,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2712\/revisions\/23226"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2712"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2712"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2712"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}