{"id":883,"date":"2005-01-16T01:00:32","date_gmt":"2005-01-15T23:00:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mummila.net\/skm\/?p=883"},"modified":"2011-07-25T16:14:19","modified_gmt":"2011-07-25T13:14:19","slug":"aidin-suru","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/2005\/01\/16\/aidin-suru\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c4idin suru"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cIhmi\u00adnen kokee el\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4n\u00ads\u00e4 aika\u00adna eri\u00adlai\u00adsia mene\u00adtyk\u00adsi\u00e4 ja luo\u00adpu\u00admi\u00adsia, jois\u00adta kuo\u00adle\u00adman aiheut\u00adta\u00admat mene\u00adtyk\u00adset ovat usein suu\u00adrim\u00adpia. Mene\u00adtyk\u00adsis\u00adt\u00e4 aiheu\u00adtu\u00adva suru on siten nor\u00admaa\u00adli ihmi\u00adsen el\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n kuu\u00adlu\u00adva tun\u00adne, joka aut\u00adtaa ihmis\u00adt\u00e4 sel\u00adviy\u00adty\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n mene\u00adtyk\u00adsis\u00adt\u00e4 [\u2026].\u201d #<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Aut\u00adtaa? Aut\u00adtaa?!<\/em>
\nEi kai mene\u00adtyk\u00adses\u00ads\u00e4 itses\u00ads\u00e4\u00e4n oli\u00adsi mit\u00e4\u00e4n pahaa, vaan kyl\u00adl\u00e4 se on se mene\u00adtyk\u00adsen aiheut\u00adta\u00adma suru, joka on niin vit\u00adtu\u00admais\u00adta, jota ei voi kes\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4, ja jos\u00adta pit\u00e4i\u00adsi \u201csel\u00adviy\u00adty\u00e4\u201d. Ei minul\u00adle aina\u00adkaan ole ole\u00admas\u00adsa mit\u00e4\u00e4n tun\u00adne\u00adsi\u00ads\u00e4l\u00adt\u00f6\u00e4, jon\u00adka voi\u00adsin liit\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4 sanaan \u2018mene\u00adtys\u2019; ainoa tun\u00adne\u00adsi\u00ads\u00e4l\u00adt\u00f6, joka sii\u00adhen hyvin kiin\u00adte\u00e4s\u00adti asso\u00adsioi\u00adtuu, ole\u00admat\u00adta kui\u00adten\u00adkaan se itse<\/em>, on juu\u00adri se suru<\/strong>. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Suru seu\u00adraa mene\u00adtys\u00adt\u00e4. Mene\u00adtys on tapah\u00adtu\u00adma, ehk\u00e4 kon\u00adkreet\u00adti\u00adnen\u00adkin, mut\u00adta ennen kaik\u00adkea mie\u00adlen\u00adsi\u00ads\u00e4i\u00adnen. Mene\u00adtys on kes\u00adkei\u00adsen (kog\u00adni\u00adtii\u00advi\u00adsen, jos sana t\u00e4s\u00ads\u00e4 yhtey\u00addes\u00ads\u00e4 on oikea) tie\u00adto\u00adra\u00adken\u00adteen muut\u00adtu\u00admi\u00adnen van\u00adhen\u00adtu\u00adneek\u00adsi (obso\u00adle\u00adte), k\u00e4yt\u00adt\u00f6\u00adkel\u00advot\u00adto\u00admak\u00adsi, yht\u00e4 kaik\u00adki tar\u00adpeet\u00adto\u00admak\u00adsi. Suru puo\u00adles\u00adtaan on se hel\u00adve\u00adtil\u00adli\u00adsen kivul\u00adloi\u00adnen tun\u00adne, joka mene\u00adtys\u00adt\u00e4 seu\u00adraa, ja joka on sit\u00e4 suu\u00adrem\u00adpi, mit\u00e4 suu\u00adrem\u00adpi on mene\u00adte\u00adtyn tie\u00adto\u00adra\u00adken\u00adteen mer\u00adki\u00adtys ihmi\u00adsen koko min\u00e4\u00adko\u00adke\u00admuk\u00adses\u00adsa. #<\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cSurua pide\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4n ylei\u00adses\u00adti kiel\u00adtei\u00adse\u00adn\u00e4 tun\u00adtee\u00adna, mut\u00adta sii\u00adn\u00e4 voi\u00addaan n\u00e4h\u00add\u00e4 my\u00f6s my\u00f6n\u00adtei\u00adsi\u00e4 piir\u00adtei\u00adt\u00e4.\u201d #<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

No ei todel\u00adla\u00adkaan. #<\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cRis\u00adti\u00adrii\u00addat, tus\u00adka, pet\u00adty\u00admys ja masen\u00adnus kulut\u00adta\u00advat elin\u00advoi\u00admaa ja saat\u00adta\u00advat lamaut\u00adtaa yksi\u00adl\u00f6n kehi\u00adtyk\u00adsen, ellei nii\u00adt\u00e4 voi\u00adte\u00adta [\u2026].\u201d #<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Toi\u00advot\u00adta\u00advas\u00adti \u201cyksi\u00adl\u00f6n kehi\u00adtyk\u00adsel\u00adl\u00e4\u201d t\u00e4s\u00ads\u00e4 tar\u00adkoi\u00adte\u00adtaan jotain muu\u00adta kuin sit\u00e4 keh\u00e4\u00adp\u00e4\u00e4\u00adtel\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4, ett\u00e4 nuo ris\u00adti\u00adrii\u00addat, tus\u00adkan, pet\u00adty\u00admyk\u00adsen ja masen\u00adnuk\u00adsen \u201cvoit\u00adta\u00adnut\u201d yksi\u00adl\u00f6 on \u201ckehit\u00adty\u00adneem\u00adpi\u201d kuin sel\u00adlai\u00adnen, joka ei niin ole teh\u00adnyt. Toi\u00advot\u00adta\u00advas\u00adti sii\u00adn\u00e4 tar\u00adkoi\u00adte\u00adtaan sel\u00adlais\u00adta kehi\u00adtys\u00adt\u00e4, jota tapah\u00adtuu var\u00adsin\u00adkin lap\u00adsis\u00adsa ja nuo\u00adris\u00adsa (ja v\u00e4hem\u00adm\u00e4n, mut\u00adta my\u00f6s aikui\u00adsis\u00adsa). #<\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cMy\u00f6n\u00adteis\u00adt\u00e4 surus\u00adsa voi olla mah\u00addol\u00adli\u00adsuus kyp\u00adsy\u00admi\u00adseen. Suruun sis\u00e4l\u00adtyy rak\u00adkaut\u00adta, n\u00f6y\u00adryyt\u00adt\u00e4 ja hyv\u00e4k\u00adsyn\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4, ja sii\u00adn\u00e4 on kuo\u00adle\u00adman ohel\u00adla my\u00f6s pal\u00adjon syn\u00adty\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4 [\u2026].\u201d #<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Voi\u00adhan l\u00e4s\u00adsyn l\u00e4s\u00adsyn. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Ensin\u00adn\u00e4\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n suruun ei todel\u00adla\u00adkaan sis\u00e4l\u00adly rak\u00adkaut\u00adta. Tus\u00adkin rak\u00adkaut\u00adta voi edes k\u00e4yt\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4 surun kans\u00adsa yht\u00e4 vaka\u00advas\u00adtio\u00adtet\u00adta\u00adva\u00adna k\u00e4sit\u00adtee\u00adn\u00e4 psy\u00adko\u00adlo\u00adgi\u00adses\u00adsa teks\u00adtis\u00ads\u00e4 (lai\u00adnat\u00adtu teks\u00adti tosin ei sel\u00adlai\u00adnen ole\u00adkaan). Suru on vie\u00adl\u00e4 koh\u00adtuul\u00adli\u00adsen hel\u00adpos\u00adti m\u00e4\u00e4\u00adri\u00adtel\u00adt\u00e4\u00advis\u00ads\u00e4 jos sit\u00e4 ver\u00adtaa rak\u00adkau\u00adteen, joka on yht\u00e4 hor\u00adju\u00adva k\u00e4si\u00adte kuin \u2018Juma\u00adla\u2019. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Jos rak\u00adkaus nyt sit\u00adten kui\u00adten\u00adkin ole\u00adte\u00adtaan m\u00e4\u00e4\u00adri\u00adtel\u00adlyk\u00adsi vaik\u00adka\u00adpa osak\u00adsi sit\u00e4 kiin\u00adty\u00admys\u00adt\u00e4, jota \u00e4iti tun\u00adtee las\u00adtan\u00adsa koh\u00adtaan, niin mis\u00ads\u00e4 hel\u00adve\u00adtis\u00ads\u00e4 se rak\u00adkaus on siel\u00adl\u00e4 surus\u00adsa? Surus\u00adsa, jota vaik\u00adka\u00adpa nyt lap\u00adsen\u00adsa menet\u00adt\u00e4\u00adnyt \u00e4iti tun\u00adtee, lie\u00adnee kui\u00adten\u00adkin kyse juu\u00adri sii\u00adt\u00e4, ett\u00e4 se rak\u00adkau\u00adden koh\u00adde on haih\u00adtu\u00adnut, ja koko se val\u00adta\u00adva, \u00e4\u00e4rim\u00adm\u00e4i\u00adsen hel\u00adlyy\u00addel\u00adlis\u00adten ja kai\u00adkin puo\u00adlin posi\u00adtii\u00advis\u00adten mie\u00adli\u00adku\u00advien raken\u00adnel\u00adma onkin yht\u00e4k\u00adki\u00e4 k\u00e4y\u00adnyt tar\u00adpeet\u00adto\u00admak\u00adsi, sil\u00adl\u00e4 koko sit\u00e4 raken\u00adnel\u00admaa kasas\u00adsa pit\u00e4\u00adnyt perus\u00adpi\u00adla\u00adri - lap\u00adsi - on pois\u00adsa. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Alle\u00advii\u00advaan t\u00e4t\u00e4 siis vie\u00adl\u00e4 ker\u00adran: suruun ei sis\u00e4l\u00adly rak\u00adkaut\u00adta<\/strong>. Suru on (edel\u00adl\u00e4 ole\u00adtet\u00adtua m\u00e4\u00e4\u00adri\u00adtel\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4 edel\u00adleen k\u00e4yt\u00adt\u00e4en) pikem\u00admin\u00adkin rak\u00adkau\u00adden anti\u00adtun\u00adne, sen rak\u00adkau\u00adden tuhan\u00adnen pi\u2026 pirs\u00adta\u00adleik\u00adsi hajoa\u00admi\u00adsen ja lopul\u00adli\u00adsen kado\u00adtuk\u00adsen aihet\u00adta\u00adma tun\u00adne. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Toi\u00adsek\u00adseen, eih\u00e4n tuos\u00adsa vain ole lis\u00adtat\u00adtu \u2018n\u00f6y\u00adryyt\u00adt\u00e4\u2019 yhte\u00adn\u00e4 surun hyvis\u00adt\u00e4 puo\u00adlis\u00adta? N\u00f6y\u00adryys ihmi\u00adsen omi\u00adnai\u00adsuu\u00adte\u00adna voi olla hyv\u00e4 (jos\u00adkaan sit\u00e4\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n en tuos\u00adta vain alle\u00adkir\u00adjoit\u00adtai\u00adsi), mut\u00adta jos tuos\u00adsa todel\u00adla yri\u00adte\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4n v\u00e4it\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4, ett\u00e4 surun tuot\u00adta\u00adma n\u00f6y\u00adryys on hyv\u00e4s\u00adt\u00e4, niin min\u00e4 alan jo ep\u00e4il\u00adl\u00e4 kir\u00adjoit\u00adta\u00adjaa usko\u00advai\u00adsek\u00adsi. Aina\u00adkaan minul\u00adla ei oli\u00adsi pok\u00adkaa sanoa yhdel\u00adle\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n sure\u00adval\u00adle, ett\u00e4 \u201copit t\u00e4s\u00adt\u00e4 n\u00f6y\u00adryyt\u00adt\u00e4\u201d - ei edes mah\u00addol\u00adli\u00adsen surus\u00adta yli\u00adp\u00e4\u00e4\u00adse\u00admi\u00adsen j\u00e4l\u00adkeen. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Hyv\u00e4k\u00adsyn\u00adt\u00e4 ei sit\u00adten kuu\u00adlu suruun, ei mis\u00ads\u00e4\u00e4n muo\u00addos\u00adsa. Suremiseen<\/em> se kuu\u00adluu, vii\u00admei\u00adse\u00adn\u00e4 vai\u00adhee\u00adna sii\u00adhen pro\u00adjek\u00adtiin, joka t\u00e4s\u00ads\u00e4\u00adkin jutus\u00adsa mai\u00adni\u00adtaan my\u00f6\u00adhem\u00admin, ja joka on eri asia kuin suru koet\u00adtu\u00adna tun\u00adtee\u00adna. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Se, ett\u00e4 suruun sis\u00e4l\u00adtyy \u201ckuo\u00adle\u00adman ohel\u00adla my\u00f6s pal\u00adjon syn\u00adty\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4\u201d onkin sit\u00adten jo ihan Seu\u00adra-leh\u00addes\u00adt\u00e4 revit\u00adty\u00e4 filo\u00adso\u00adfoin\u00adtia. #<\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cYmm\u00e4r\u00adt\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4 kuo\u00adle\u00adma osak\u00adsi el\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4 suru voi\u00addaan hyv\u00e4k\u00adsy\u00e4 vas\u00adtauk\u00adse\u00adna mene\u00adtyk\u00adseen, ja t\u00e4m\u00e4 voi joh\u00adtaa per\u00adsoo\u00adnal\u00adli\u00adseen kas\u00advuun [\u2026].\u201d #<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Yht\u00e4 v\u00e4h\u00e4n kuin rak\u00adkaus tai syn\u00adty\u00adm\u00e4 on osa surua on kuo\u00adle\u00adma osa el\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4. Kuo\u00adle\u00adma, exi\u00adtus, on el\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4n lop\u00adpu\u00admi\u00adnen. Kyse lie\u00adnee m\u00e4\u00e4\u00adrit\u00adte\u00adlyis\u00adt\u00e4, mut\u00adta m\u00e4\u00e4\u00adrit\u00adte\u00adly\u00e4 h\u00e4m\u00e4r\u00adt\u00e4\u00advil\u00adl\u00e4 kik\u00adkai\u00adluil\u00adla ei sure\u00advia aute\u00adta. Jos \u2018el\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4l\u00adl\u00e4\u2019 t\u00e4s\u00ads\u00e4 ei tar\u00adkoi\u00adte\u00adta sit\u00e4 tilaa, jos\u00adsa eli\u00f6 on kuo\u00adle\u00admaan\u00adsa saak\u00adka, vaan sit\u00e4 todel\u00adli\u00adsuus\u00adk\u00e4\u00adsi\u00adtys\u00adt\u00e4, jos\u00adsa kukin el\u00e4\u00e4, niin koko \u201ckuo\u00adle\u00adma on osa el\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4\u201d -totea\u00admus on mer\u00adki\u00adtyk\u00adsel\u00adt\u00e4\u00e4n yht\u00e4 tyh\u00adj\u00e4 ja mene\u00adtyk\u00adsen hyv\u00e4k\u00adsy\u00admi\u00adsel\u00adle yht\u00e4 v\u00e4h\u00e4n avuk\u00adsi kuin totea\u00admus \u201cmaa\u00adliin\u00adtu\u00adlo on osa kisaa\u201d. Kenel\u00adl\u00e4\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n ei lie\u00adne sii\u00adt\u00e4 mit\u00e4\u00e4n ep\u00e4i\u00adlys\u00adt\u00e4. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Mit\u00e4 tar\u00adkoit\u00adtaa surun hyv\u00e4k\u00adsy\u00admi\u00adnen \u201cvas\u00adtauk\u00adse\u00adna mene\u00adtyk\u00adseen\u201d? Tar\u00adkoit\u00adtaa\u00adko se sen hyv\u00e4k\u00adsy\u00admis\u00adt\u00e4, mit\u00e4 juu\u00adri tuol\u00adla edel\u00adl\u00e4 kuvai\u00adlin eli, ett\u00e4 suru on mene\u00adtys\u00adt\u00e4 seu\u00adraa\u00adva tun\u00adne\u00adreak\u00adtio? Sen\u00adh\u00e4n min\u00e4 hyv\u00e4k\u00adsyn kyl\u00adl\u00e4. Min\u00e4\u00adh\u00e4n vai\u00advau\u00adduin sen jopa m\u00e4\u00e4\u00adrit\u00adte\u00adle\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n\u00adkin sel\u00adke\u00e4s\u00adti ja yksi\u00adk\u00e4\u00adsit\u00adtei\u00adses\u00adti, toi\u00adsin kuin alku\u00adpuo\u00adlen lai\u00adnauk\u00adsen alku\u00adpe\u00adr\u00e4i\u00adnen kir\u00adjoit\u00adta\u00adja. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Minun t\u00e4y\u00adtyy teh\u00add\u00e4 tosi kau\u00adas mene\u00advi\u00e4 ole\u00adtuk\u00adsia kir\u00adjoit\u00adta\u00adjan tar\u00adkoi\u00adtuk\u00adsis\u00adta, mut\u00adta jos h\u00e4n nyt tuol\u00adla tar\u00adkoit\u00adtaa sit\u00e4, ett\u00e4 surus\u00adta p\u00e4\u00e4\u00adsee yli, kun sen hyv\u00e4k\u00adsyy, niin saat\u00adtai\u00adsin ehk\u00e4 olla samaa miel\u00adt\u00e4. Tosin en sit\u00adten\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n tie\u00add\u00e4, mit\u00e4 olen\u00adnais\u00adta uut\u00adta tie\u00adtoa se tuo sii\u00adhen n\u00e4h\u00adden, ett\u00e4 hyv\u00e4k\u00adsy\u00admi\u00adnen on sure\u00admi\u00adsen vii\u00admei\u00adnen vai\u00adhe. Kei\u00adno\u00adja p\u00e4\u00e4s\u00adt\u00e4 sure\u00admis\u00adpro\u00adjek\u00adtin masen\u00adnus\u00advai\u00adhees\u00adta hyv\u00e4k\u00adsy\u00admis\u00advai\u00adhee\u00adseen min\u00e4 en vie\u00adl\u00e4\u00adk\u00e4\u00e4n mis\u00ads\u00e4\u00e4n n\u00e4e. #<\/a><\/p>\n

Toi\u00adsaal\u00adta min\u00e4 tun\u00adnun ole\u00advan yht\u00e4 aikaa masen\u00adnuk\u00adsen kans\u00adsa jumis\u00adsa my\u00f6s viha-vai\u00adhees\u00adsa. Tai sit\u00adten minun tapauk\u00adses\u00adsa\u00adni ei ole edes kyse suru\u00adpro\u00adjek\u00adtis\u00adta vaan viha-masen\u00adnus-pro\u00adses\u00adsis\u00adta. P\u00e4\u00e4t\u00adty\u00adm\u00e4t\u00adt\u00f6\u00adm\u00e4s\u00adt\u00e4<\/em> viha-masen\u00adnus-pro\u00adses\u00adsis\u00adta. #<\/a><\/p>\n

L\u00e4h\u00adde: Hilk\u00adka Laak\u00adso<\/strong>, Mari\u00adta Pau\u00adno\u00adnen-Ilmo\u00adnen<\/strong>: \u00c4idin suru<\/a> (kir\u00adjas\u00adto\u00adk\u00e4yt\u00adt\u00f6\u00f6n rajoi\u00adtet\u00adtu PDF;
\nL\u00e4\u00e4\u00adk\u00e4\u00adri\u00adleh\u00adti 2\/2005<\/a>) #<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cIhmi\u00adnen kokee el\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4n\u00ads\u00e4 aika\u00adna eri\u00adlai\u00adsia mene\u00adtyk\u00adsi\u00e4 ja luo\u00adpu\u00admi\u00adsia, jois\u00adta kuo\u00adle\u00adman aiheut\u00adta\u00admat mene\u00adtyk\u00adset ovat usein suu\u00adrim\u00adpia. Mene\u00adtyk\u00adsis\u00adt\u00e4 aiheu\u00adtu\u00adva suru on siten nor\u00admaa\u00adli ihmi\u00adsen el\u00e4\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n kuu\u00adlu\u00adva tun\u00adne, joka aut\u00adtaa ihmis\u00adt\u00e4 sel\u00adviy\u00adty\u00adm\u00e4\u00e4n mene\u00adtyk\u00adsis\u00adt\u00e4 [\u2026].\u201d # Aut\u00adtaa? Aut\u00adtaa?! Ei kai mene\u00adtyk\u00adses\u00ads\u00e4 itses\u00ads\u00e4\u00e4n oli\u00adsi mit\u00e4\u00e4n pahaa, vaan kyl\u00adl\u00e4 se on se mene\u00adtyk\u00adsen aiheut\u00adta\u00adma suru, joka on niin vit\u00adtu\u00admais\u00adta, jota ei voi kest\u00e4\u00e4, [\u2026]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wp_typography_post_enhancements_disabled":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[11444],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-883","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-merkinnat"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/883","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=883"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/883\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20693,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/883\/revisions\/20693"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=883"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=883"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mummila.net\/marginaali\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=883"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}